“Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code is an essay by Michael Kimmel. In this essay, Kimmel explores the stereotypes of the genders, males in. “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code. MICHAEL KIMMEL. 5. Accorsling to sociologist Michael Kimmel, “guys” – young men. ages sixteen to tucntij-sir represent a. “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code by Michael Kimmel. To be a man is to be tough and to show no fear, this is what most fathers teach their sons.

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The teaching of masculinity in America.

Kimmel then goes on to explore what it means to be a beforr. What makes men want to be powerful and so masculine? Then summarizes the paper with the scientific and social effects these expectations have placed on boys and men as a result.

“Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code

This site uses cookies. I think Kimmel has hit the nail on the head to why many men act in a macho and emotionless matter. Men, women, parents, educators, sociologists, psychologists and scholarly audiences would take interest in this subject matter.

You are commenting using your Twitter account. The idea of gender as we think of it kimmfl solely a social construct, born into existence by the pressure of tradition and micuael supremacy of the majority. Kimmel first uses exemplification to explain what the guy code is all about. This is true for our perceptions of “masculinity” and “femininity”, micharl this point is driven home in “Bros Before Hos: This paper has given me an understanding of why men relate to certain situations the way they do.

No wonder boys drop out of school and are diagnosed as emotionally disturbed four times more often as girls, get into fights twice as often, and are six times more likely than girls to be diagnosed with ADHD The purpose of Kimmel writing is to bring to light the confusing expectations we place on boys and men in our modern society to be viewed as acceptable men. Kimmel explains the pressures young boys experience and the expectations as they grow to manhood. It causes them to grow hoez thinking that showing emotion is never ok, which in the long term makes it complicated to grow healthy relationships with others in life.


The purpose is to relate this code to why young men act and feel the way they do, and how masculinity is perceived in culture.

Towards the end of the article he uses cause and effect, which discusses the effect that the boy code has on men as they mature. It is interesting to trace it back and explore where these rules originated. In this essay, Kimmel explores the stereotypes of the genders, males in specific. Email required Address never made public. Posted by KellyF at We can summarize from this list of varying responses that men want to be looked at as having no weaknesses kummel emotions.

How men are pressured by their own peers to prove their masculinity. Social psychologist, Robert Brannon, summarized the four rules of masculinity.

They will rarely show kindness or any form of compassion. Posted by AmberP at 3: The Guy Code is an essay by Michael Kimmel.

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The boy code is no different then the guy code, it just starts at a younger age and teaches men to grow distant mchael their mothers, in order to grow up to be a man. Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here I have been friends with, and dated many men who have these traits and some who defy them. I find that as Kimmel says, when men are with other men they have this need to prove their masculinity; however, in more personal situation I have luckily been able to witness that it does not cause all men to close up and become an emotionless and angry driven person.

They want to be known as powerful and as having control over every situation. Who are they trying to impress?

Then, Kimmel goes to ask, where do young men get these ideas? You are commenting using your Facebook account. He has gone on to ask males all around the country what it means to be a man.

The article was part of a book he wrote inwritten about men ages sixteen to twenty six and directed towards anyone interested in gender and how it relates to masculinity and men.


Newer Post Older Post Home. He also conducts some his own research in his classrooms, asking his students their feelings, experiences and opinions on the subject. Notify me of new comments via email. By continuing to use this website, you agree to their use.

Newer Post Older Post Home. I really enjoyed this writing. You are commenting using your WordPress. According to his interviews with various men from all over the country, the male social facade was put upon them by fathers, grandfathers, coaches, older brothers and other significant male role models as young boys. From young influential ages boys are told not to cry, no sissy stuff, play like a boy, no complaining, take it like a man, etc.

This essay really opened my eyes and helped me realize that there is an unsaid list of rules that mostly all males follow. Kimmel describes the imchael Guy Code and Boy Code rules that are directly and indirectly expected to be adhered to by boys and men.

Then there are the unspoken signs of femininity such as showing emotion, wearing feminine colors, being well dressed, participating in feminine activities and hobbies like art, music, ohes, shopping, fashion and certain grooming habits. Most of the women mainly say that being a women means you can be whatever you want to be. As a guy if you step outside these rules you are opening yourself up to be called words such as gay and homo, which he believes for a young man is the ultimate put down of their masculinity; therefore, self.

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